If you're a parent going through a divorce, you're probably feeling a range of emotions: anger, sadness, confusion, and anxiety. It's normal to feel this way. However, it's important to remember that despite the challenges you may be facing, you're not alone. Millions of other parents have gone through (or are currently going through) a divorce. And while the process is certainly not easy, it is possible to parent your children after a divorce and reach compromises successfully. Here are five tips to help you get started:
1. Remember That Communication is Key
Communicate with your ex-spouse. If you can have an amicable relationship with your ex-spouse, it will make parenting much easier. Communicating openly and frequently will help ensure that both of you are on the same page regarding parenting decisions. However, if communication is not possible or there is a conflict between you and your ex-spouse, other options are available.
2. Always Put the Kids First
Put your children first. It's important to remember that your children are going through this divorce too. As such, it's vital to put their needs above your own and do everything you can to make sure they're comfortable and happy. This includes maintaining a consistent routine (e.g., set bedtimes and mealtimes), being flexible when possible (e.g., allowing them to spend extra time with their other parent on their birthday), and being honest with them about what's going on (e.g., explain the divorce in age-appropriate terms).
3. Find Support When You Need It
Seek support from friends and family members. Divorce can be a very isolating experience. You may feel like you have no one to talk to or lean on for support. This is why it's so important to seek out supportive relationships with friends and family members who can lend an ear when needed or provide a shoulder to cry on. These people can be invaluable during this difficult time. By having a strong support network, you can navigate complex emotions healthily and appropriately.
4. Meet Your Emotional and Physical Needs
Take care of yourself emotionally and physically. It's important to take care of yourself emotionally and physically during this time. This means taking breaks when needed, seeking professional help if necessary, participating in activities that make you happy, and eating healthy meals/exercising regularly (both for your physical health and your mental health). Taking care of yourself will help you better cope with the stresses of divorce and make you a better parent for your children.
5. Additional Resources can Help
Seek out resources for divorced parents. Many resources are available for divorced parents, including books, articles, websites, support groups, etc. These resources can provide valuable information and support during this challenging time in your life. For example, Susan K. Duke from Duke Law Firm, P.C. provides a resource known as Conflict Parenting Coaching. This service assists divorced or separated parents by helping them navigate conflicts and reach difficult compromises. Conflict Parenting Coaching is especially beneficial because it can help prevent the couple from having to return to court.
Duke Law Firm, P.C. Is Ready to Help You With Parenting Issues
When experiencing parenting issues or conflicts, it can feel overwhelming to attempt to reach a compromise. However, Duke Law Firm, P.C. is prepared to help you navigate through complex and challenging times. Our goal is to help parents reach compromises without having to take matters to court.
To schedule a consultation, call us at (585) 449-4987 or visit us online.